It has been said that when we have “our person” put together then the world looks just fine. Putting your person together is recovery.
Ira Riklis knows that the first step in recovery is admitting that you are powerless to control your tendency to do the wrong thing. (Religious people sometimes refer to this as our “sin nature”.) One might say that we think that we are God and therefore we attempt to play God. How do we do this? You might say by trying to control everything in our lives for selfish reasons. We try to control our image or how we look to others. We are always putting up a good front and are overly concerned with our appearance and our possessions especially how our possessions reflect upon us. Isn’t it true that many of us try to control other people especially the people in our lives like husbands, wives, parents, and children. How about the workplace? We might say that we are “influencing” or “role-modeling for” our co-workers when we are really attempting to control these people.
Ira Riklis knows that we often try to control our problems stating that “I’m fine” when we are really hurting. We then are trying to control the pain and hurt in our lives.
The consequences of these actions might be fear (that people might find out who we really are), fatigue (we get very tired) and maybe failure.
The antidote is admitting that we are powerless to change our past especially hurts experienced in the past, powerless to control other people, and powerless to cope particularly regarding our harmful habits. We need to draw on a power greater than ourselves to bring about change in our lives. We need to look for a transforming power that brings about change from the inside out.